Widowed foster dad seeks a new ‘normal’ for foster kids

Story of a foster dad with children with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD).  He is a Manitoba foster dad with a story he wanted to tell. And so, when CBC Manitoba created a form for our audience to “Pitch a Story,” he was one of the first to ask to share his.

Below, in his own words, is his story. The CBC has agreed not to identify him, to protect the identity of those in his care.


In 2002 I met a lady online. I asked her what she did for a living and she told me she was a foster parent. Thinking I knew what that was, I was impressed.

By Valentine’s 2003 we were planning a summer wedding. In August of 2003 I became a husband. I also, in that moment, became a foster dad to her now nine-month-old foster son.

The first five years of marriage were hardly typical for a new family. Because of my job at the time, I was gone 25 days a month. We built a house and were instantly bumped up to four foster placements with the agency. By 2004, we had a little brother for our boy, and our other two spots were a revolving door of emergency placements, temporary shelter and short-term kids, just needing a place to stay for a bit. (Read more...)